i posted a note back in the fall explaining that i was in love with a vet who'd been a tunnel rat in nam and asking for any advice in dealing with this with him.

to all the wonderful guys who answered my note, i want to say i'm sorry if i didn't get back to you personally.

i was so happy when i was with jack, and at the time we were living in a nursing home (yeah, we met there, and fell in love--i'm gonna write a book, 'finding love in a nursing home' someday. LOL) and moved out and into an apartment together about two weeks later, and i didn't get the 'puter hooked up right away, so didn't pick up my email in a timely fashion.

plus, i just wanted to be with jack, and time on the 'puter was time away from him, soooo....

i wanted to let everyone know, jack died sunday nite. we had had eight months together from the first time we met, and i am bereft. i had so hoped for 20 or 30 years, but those eight months were the best time of my life and, i think, his too.

i've never loved anyone more than i loved jack, and i've never been happier. in nov he asked me to marry him. it was wonderful, but not important, really. what was important was that we loved each other and were together.

i'm sorry, i'm repeating myself here.

again, thank you to all who responded to me, forgive me for not getting back to you if i didn't. i did appreciate the words of wisdom from everyone who wrote. you're a great bunch of caring people. be there for each other.

karend